More on Power Listening, about embracing silence. Not an easy task. Silences lead people to dig deeper. Silence has value. Silence means that you are able to let go of having to give comments and forming opinions or judgements. It takes confidence as a coach to be able to let silences happen.
Coaching is always about the coachee, facilitating a process by paraphrasing and inviting to dig deeper, in the space of a silence. Silence is the absence of judgement, it is leaving the coachee in the drivers seat. They have to be sure that they want to move forward, that they are convinced of their path, that they believe in their direction. Being silent together, you support this process.
People start by talking about their problems, but they need to go deeper until they find the real issue behind the problems, silence facilitates this digging.
In such a vocal, verbal culture as the Italian one, silences are few and far between when two or more people occupy a space. More often everyone talks at once, or overlaps large sections of verbal exchanges. How would an Italian react to a coaching session laced with pauses of silence? Differently, I suppose, than a Scandinavian (or someone from Maine).
a domani,
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